Thread:Sitb/@comment-43596541-20200202232456/@comment-43596541-20200203123042

FIrst thanks for your input. It is really appreciated.

You wrote:

"There are even many wikis that follow a "benevolent dictator" model (for lack of a better term) when it comes to wiki oversight"

That reminds me of a thing  I read eons ago on Usenet about  the Internet not being a democracy but collection of interconnected fiefdoms where who owns the resources  nakes the rules ... Also, point taken on the "benevolent dictator model"  ( also called "parents know best model"  back in the days)  which is a term I'm very familiar with having been list owner on LISTSERV for several years ... I was under the impression FANDOM was promoting a more Community based approach in general but it seems I may have misread some of what I read and/or have too much of an idealistic approach to the Wiki model. I'll refliect on that.

"Regarding that particular thread you linked: there was something you mentioned in a response which I would certainly consider as both sexist and offensive toward another user."

I re-read the thread and I think I might get what it is but would you give a link to the the message in question ? English is my second language and I sometimes don't get the "severity" of some idioms or figure of speech I find benign which is what caused the "debate" in the first place. I'm trying to figure out the sexist part. Unless you refer to the "undergarment" idiom which I saw commonly used and had no clue it could be construed as "gender specific". Aside that, I can't see anything else. As a 56 year old male brought up with 6 sisters,  I don't use sexist language but I'm always willing to learn what others consider sexist in order to amend my speech in the future.

For instance since I have no clue,  I often simply ask what pronoun I should use when talking of someone she, he or they as there is no way of guess who's at the other end of a keyboard. I truly have no clue which gender you are and, in my mind at least, I treat everyone on an equal footing but I realize that personal experience may taint some language for the person receiving the message.

That said like I mentioned on the thread at the end ... I'll be reflecting more on the topic of the Wiki structure and content,  "guidelines" and "Community Standards"  over the next days. Especially on the topic of having a place where active contributors can voice suggestions on the Wiki operations to have the feedback of the Community that is more "part of the Wiki" than an admin e-mail since I think it would alleviate most of the problems  I've experienced and read about and lead to a better Wiki an a much better experience for everyone involved.

P.S. I'm aware I have the emotional intelligence of a rock or  a snowbank being generally a more detached an analytical person, been working on it  ... with meager results nost would say  (^)